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Melayu Malas.

Posted: December 20, 2011 in Et Cetera

Anything that I wrote is based on my experience and opinion. Nothing against anyone, any races or et cetera. As a human being, a person needs to be reminded many times until it sticks in the brain. Same goes to me, same goes to you and same goes to everybody. A person with shallow, narrow, immature minded will always think negatively thus it will drain out positive people out of their life. Choose your attitude before you continue reading…

I was born as Malay, raised in Malay cultures, live in Malay society, speak in Malay language, learnt Malay sensitivities and inherit Malay traditions but I cannot say that I am purely hundred percent Malay. My grandma from my father’s side is Chinese, my grandpa from my mother’s side is full of mixtures, originatively, my great-great grandpa was from Arab, moved and married a Pinoy, moved and married an Indonesian, moved again and married a Malay. Kudos grandpas, you’ve made a great history for me to write!

I cannot tell much about my father’s side because they inherit unsocial type of attitudes especially my grandma. She never told me about her biological parents. Maybe because she cannot remember who they are. For your better understanding, my grandma whom I called “nenek” was adopted by a Malay family since she was born. Reason because during that time, the Japanese were killing all the Chinese during their invasion of Tanah Melayu. But a curiosity snapped into my head once. I asked nenek why she have Chinese features? Suddenly her face turned red and the face masam already. My auntie which I called “Uda” scolded me and told me never to say or asked that type of question or issue again. A seven years old child is naïve and will ask anything that come across his mind right? Blocking a child’s mind by scolding is a very unhealthy way to teach them. Choose a positive way to teach or prevent them from asking anything that you feel uncomfortable during that time. Always remember that.

As for my mother’s side, they origin is a one loooooooooooooooooooooooong story to tell. I chose to skip about that at this moment and I will share it some other time perhaps. My mom’s family is a total different attitude from my dad’s side. They are more socialize and friendly type of people. My late grandpa whom I called “atuk” was a village chief. Atuk brought himself acceptable to any person that he met. He knows how to talk, he knows how to mingle, he knows how to tackle things and basically he knows most of the things that can capture person’s heart. Al-Fatihah to the late YM Raja Abdullah Bin YM Raja Hitam.

As I grew up with two different atmospheres, I learnt something most valuable in life. I watched, I discovered, I changed, I moved, I planned and I keep on going to attain my dream. And as I am walking to the future, I heard someone said “Melayu Malas”. Whoooooo, bikin panas I said to myself. I stopped, took one step back, listened, think and I acted.

I stopped because the statement was very interesting, I took one step back because I want to see clearly without doubt who is talking, I listened because I don’t want uncertainty with lack of information flooded in my mind, I’ve done the thinking because I am digesting 5 Ws and 1 H so that I know what are the root causes and lastly, I acted because if it is true, I don’t want to be one of them and if it is not, I will prove them wrong.

Anyhow, the statement is seems to be a right statement isn’t it? I have the laziness syndrome in me and I bet it also have inside all of you. The issue is how we manage our laziness inside us. I will do some comparisons not to show who is good and who is not, but to open up a possibility for us to improve ourselves. From my experiences, I met a lot of people who lost their hope not to others but to themselves. The first person that I met is me, myself. I lost hope for myself few times, I gave up and doing nothing for several times, I stop and lost faith for myself once. Those days are behind me. I’ve changed, I moved and I took action.

I am lucky because I have so many multiracial friends in Malaysia. I have worked with few ministers, politicians, chief ministers, doctors, lawyers and many more that I cannot put it all here. I have mingled with many people from the highest ranking person in our country to the homeless people who lives on the street. Maybe due to that, my eyes are wide open and my mind stored a lot of information for me to share. There were few occasions that a Malay guy age around 40s always telling other people who were talking with him by saying “Ala yang kaya dan yang berniaga semua Cina. Kita tak ada apa”. Until one day I had enough and I interrupted the conversation by saying “Betul jugak tu pakcik. Tapi kalau dah Melayu sendiri tak nak berniaga dan kalau berniaga pun dengki sesame sendiri susah jugak. Kebanyakkan orang-orang kita ni pandai cakap je kan pakcik? Kerja buat pon sambil lewa. Pelik kan pakcik?” The man mumbled and another person laughing for a reason that I don’t know.

In reality, did you ever counter the same situation as mine? Did it happen few times in your life? Let us go back and see why the uncle said such avowal to other people. From my opinions, maybe we, Malays are now feel so secured for what we have; the comfort zone. How many of us who are struggling very hard to improve or to change for a better life? How many? Do not look at other people. Look at YOU, YOURSELF instead. If you are working in a big, a medium or a small company, what did you have achieved all these years? Did you really put all your efforts in your daily tasks? Or you just accomplish what you should do because at the end of the month you will earn your salary anyway? If you own a business in example, a company, did you manage the resources well? Did all your plans work? How did you accommodate your subordinates or your employees? Are they satisfied with your management? What are your contributions towards your surroundings? These are the examples of most of us forget to accomplish. These are the factor questions that somehow help a person or an organization success. I’m not saying that we did not do it but it is not completed yet.

There are no differences between Malay, Chinese, Indians and other races, we are still human and we breathe the same air. The only thing that makes us different from another is what we have done. Meaning, if you are willing to sacrifice your bedtime, sacrifice your ego, sacrifice your “shame” and put all your best effort in whatever you do, no matter what race you were born, YOU WILL BE A SUCCESSFUL PERSON! We might have very good plans but most of us failed to execute the plans and gave up easily.

I love my race, I love my religion, I love my family, I love my friends and most of all I love my country very much. If we do not have a PEACEFUL country, do not dreams to love your friends, do not dreams to love your family, do not dream to love your religion and do not ever dream about to love your own race. Can you see that we are all related and we complement each other? The “Peaceful Chains” in Malaysia is the good relationship between each and every race in the country. Malay, Chinese, Indians, Iban, Kadazan, Orang Asli and many more are the key of the “Peaceful Chains” in our beloved country.

If after reading this article and you still hear the same phrase as the uncle said “Ala yang kaya dan yang berniaga semua Cina. Kita tak ada apa”, meaning the other races are executing their plans well, they are not easily give up, they are working hard to achieve their target and they are managing their laziness superbly. Thus, it’s a good challenge for the Malays to wake up or to come out from our comfort zone and run towards the others so that some day we will hear other people from a different country say “Wow! The Malaysians are all successful people and the best part is they live happily in a multi-racial country!”

The conclusions and the lessons from this article are:

  • We have to encounter pro and cons in our life so we can learn from it.
  • Start to appreciate one and another.
  • No matter what race we are born, remember that we are no different from others and we complement each other.
  • Put all the effort in whatever you do.
  • Do not give up easily.
  • Learn to share and help each other.
  • Stop arguing and pointing mistakes to other people.
  • Honor the “Peaceful Chains”.